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Bee Pollen has been touted to increase energy levels and increase performance, thus making it a favorite supplement among bodybuilders and other athletes. Performance Enhancement has been attributed to the use of bee pollen. It has been shown to produce an accelerated rate of recovery, and those not receiving bee pollen supplementation have shown declining performance rates and recovery.
Bee Pollen also has been used in Europe and the US as a treatment for prostate enlargement, prostatitis, and other prostate problems.
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The advances in science over the past century have been breath-taking. We’ve seen man stroll casually on the moon, watched in awe as scientists cloned and brought a sheep to life using nothing more than a few strands of microscopic DNA and we witnessed some stunning improvements in the fields of medicine and care – for example, Viagra to some has been the discovery of a lifetime.
Now, it seems, the latest scientifically backed research actually allows a couple to safely and naturally choose the gender of their baby with up to 98% accuracy. The implications of this research are huge and most couples whether they admit it or not would probably prefer one gender of child over the other. This is not at all a bad thing and there are several reasons for this. Perhaps a family with 3 little boys would like to “complete” their family with a lovely baby girl. Until now it has always been wishful thinking and fate has been the ultimate decider – but today, every couple who wish to can choose the gender of their child with a 98% chance of getting the gender of child they would like – and the best thing is that it is completely safe, natural and free. So what are these factors?
Firstly, the diet of the female in particular during and around conception plays a big role in determining the gender of your child. This is because what foodstuffs the woman eats at this time has a big impact on her tract (vagina, ovaries, cervix and fallopian tube) which in turn goes a long way in determining whether she will give birth to a baby boy or girl. There is a comprehensive list of foods that should be consumed and avoid if you want a baby girl, and another list if you wish to conceive a boy.
Another determining factor is the role of sex between the couple. It may seem unlikely, but both penis size and the sexual position during conception will both have a huge impact on whether your baby will be a boy or girl. This is to do with the resilience of the male and female sperms and how deeply they are deposited within the tract. Some sexual positions facilitate deeper penetration than others which explains the role of intercourse in gender selection. The timing of sex is also crucial in determining the gender of your child – in relation to ovulation. Also important is the female orgasm – whether the woman orgasms or not during conception has a significant say towards deciding the gender of the baby. This is because during orgasm certain chemicals are released into the woman’s tract which induce the right conditions for one particular gender of child to be created over the other. Even male and female masturbation plays a role in determining the baby’s gender.
Finally, there are also a number of random factors that can be altered to help create one gender of child over the other – for example certain activities the man does in the hours prior to having intercourse can actually almost eliminate the couples chances of having a baby boy.
I really hope you have found this article useful. The most amazing thing about it all is that the decision of having a baby girl or boy is actually largely in our own hands. Almost all the determining factors are things that we can choose to change, in order to favour having one gender of child over the other – to a 98% success rate. If you would like to find out much more including a tip sheet on exactly what you can do to conceive either a baby boy or girl then the below site will show you how: http://www.global-ebooks.com/childindex.htm
I wish you every success!
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Definition of Erectile dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability of a man to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for his sexual needs or the needs of his partner. Erectile dysfunction is sometimes called as “impotence”.
The term "erectile dysfunction" can mean the inability to achieve erection, an inconsistent ability to do so, or the ability to achieve only brief erections.
Ayurveda defines Erectile dysfunction or ED as follows.
Sankalpapravano nityam priyaam vashyaamapi sthreeyam ||
na yaathi lingashaithilyaath kadaachidyaathi vaa yadi |
Shwaasaarthaha swinnagaatrshcha moghasankalpacheshtitaha ||
mlaanashishnashcha nirbeejaha syodetat klaibyalaxanam |
This means even though a man has a strong desire to perform sexual act with a cooperative partner, he can not perform sexual act because of looseness (absence of erection) of his phallus (penis). Even if he performs sexual act with his determined efforts he does not get erection and gets afflicted with tiredness, perspiration and frustration to perform sex.
Physiology of erection
The two chambers of penis (corpora cavernosa,) which run throught the organ are filled with spongy tissue. The corpora cavernosa are surrounded by a membrane, called the tunica albuginea. The spongy tissue contains smooth muscles, fibrous tissues, spaces, veins, and arteries. The urethra, which is the channel for urine and semen runs along underside of the corpora cavernosa.
Due to sensory or mental stimulation, or both, the erection begins. Due to impulses from brain and local nerves the muscles of corpora cavernosa relax and allow blood to flow in and fill the spaces of spongy tissue.
The flow of blood creates pressure in the corpora cavernosa, making the penis expand. The tunica albuginea helps trap the blood in the chambers, thereby sustaining erection. When muscles in the penis contract to stop the inflow of blood and open outflow channels, erection recedes.
In ayurveda physiology of erection and ejaculation is described as follows
Vrishunow basthimedram cha naabhyuuru vankshnow gudam|
Apaanasthaanamantrasthaha shukra mootra shakrunti cha||
The “apaanavayu” one of the five types of vayu is located in the testicles, urinary bladder, phallus, umbilicus, thighs, groin, anus and colon. Its functions are ejaculation of semen, voiding of urine and stools.
Shushruta explains the process of erection and ejaculation as When a man has desire (iccha) to have sex, his response to touch increases (Vayu located in skin causes flow of signals from skin to brain, thus causing sensation of touch). This causes arousal or “harsha”. Arousal or Harsha intensifies actions of vayu and at this moment highly active vayu liberates the teja or heat of pitta. Thus tejas and vayu increase body temperature, heart beat and blood flow causing erection.
Causes of ED
Erection requires a sequence of events. Erectile dysfunction can occur when any of the events is disturbed. Nerve impulses in the brain, spinal column, around the penis and response in muscles, fibrous tissues, veins, and arteries in and around the corpora cavernosa constitute this sequence of events. Injury to any of these parts which are part of this sequence (nerves, arteries, smooth muscles, fibrous tissue) can cause ED.
Lowered level of testosterone hormone: The primary male hormone is testosterone. After age 40, a man's testosterone level gradually declines. About 5% of men that doctors see for erectile dysfunction have low testosterone levels. In many of these cases, low testosterone causes lower sexual interest, not erectile dysfunction.
The whole male body responds to testosterone.
Even sushruta has illustrated about this response of body to the element “Shukra” . He has said "yatha payasi sarpistu goodashchekshow raso yatha shareereshu tatha shukram nrinaam vidyaadhbishagwara." This means the shukra (the element which helps in reproduction) is present all over the body.
This can be explained with the following examples:
1. The ghee is present in milk in an invisible form. This is extracted from milk using many processes.
2. The sugar is present all over the sugarcane. It is extracted by subjecting the sugarcane to number of processes.
Same way shukra is present all over the body. But the cream of shukra (semen) comes out of the body only during the process of ejaculation. But this process of ejaculation needs a joyful union of mind and body.
Decrease in production of “Shukra” causes erectile dysfunction.
Over exertion - physically and mentally: Working for long hours in office, mental stress at office and home, short temperedness ,insufficient sleep cause erectile dysfunction.
These causes are explained in ayurveda as "shoka chintaa, bhaya, traasaat .... " which means that erectile dysfunction or Impotence occurs due to grief, fear, anxiety and terror.
Strained relationship with sexual partner: Erectile dysfunction also occurs when there is a disliking towards sexual partner.
Ayurveda describes this as "naarinaamarasamjnatwaat..." means disliking for women.
Diseases that cause Erectile dysfunction: Neurological disorders, hypothyroidism, Parkinson's disease, anemia, depression, arthritis, endocrine disorders,diabetes, diseases related to cardiovascular system also become reasons for erectile dysfunction..
According to ayurveda the diseases which cause erectile dysfunction are "Hritpaandurogatamakakaamalashrama..." - Heart diseases, anemia, asthma, liver disorders, tiredness. Apart from these the imbalance in tridoshas also cause impotence or erectile dysfunction.
Consumption of medicines, drugs and tobacco: Using antidepressants, tranquilizers and antihypertensive medicines for a long time, addiction to tobacco especially smoking, excessive consumption of alcohol, addiction to cocaine, heroin and marijuana cause erectile dysfunction.
In ayurveda texts these causes have been said in brief as "rukshamannapaanam tathoushadham" - "dry food, drinks and medicines" cause impotence or erectile dysfunction.
Trauma to pelvic region: accidental injury to pelvic region and surgeries for the conditions of prostate, bladder, colon, or rectal area may lead to erectile dysfunction.
These causes are mentioned as abhighata (trauma), shastradantanakhakshataha (injury from weapons, teeth and nail.) in ayurveda.
Other reasons: Obesity, prolonged bicycle riding, past history of sexual abuse and old age also cause Erectile dysfunction.
Ayurveda describes the cause of impotence or erectile dysfunction due to old age as follows. "diminution of - tissue elements, strength, energy, span of life, inability to take nourishing food, physical and mental fatigue lead to impotence."
Remedies for ED
ED is treatable at any age. The total treatment in for impotence is called as “Vajikarana therapy” in ayurveda. As this therapy increases the strength of a man to perform sexual act, like a horse, it is called 'Vaajikarana'. ('Vaaji'=Horse.)
Vaajikarana therapy leads to
• Happiness.
• Good strength. • Potency to produce healthy offspring.
• Increased span of erection.
Eligibility for vajikarana therapy.
1. The vajikarana therapy should be administered to persons who are between 18 to 70 years of age.
2. These therapies should be administered only to a self controlled person. If this therapy is administered to a person who does not have self control, he becomes nuisance to society through his illegitimate sex acts.
Psychotherapy
Decreasing anxiety associated with intercourse, with psychologically based treatment helps to cure ED. The patient's partner can help with the techniques, which include gradual development of intimacy and stimulation. Such techniques also can help relieve anxiety when ED from physical causes is being treated.
Same treatment is illustrated in ayurveda. It has been said “A woman who understands a man and is liked by him, along with erotic environment act as best aphrodisiac.“
Drug Therapy
Numerous herbal preparations are mentioned in Ayurveda to treat ED or impotence. It has been said that people who have strong sexual urge, who want to enjoy sex regularly have to consume these preparations regularly to replenish the energy, vigor, stamina and strength. These preparations also supply the nutrients which are necessary for production of semen.
Ayurveda tips to overcome ED
1. Consuming herbal preparations to rejuvenate the reproductive organs.
2. Massaging the body with a herbal oil which gives a relief from physical exertion and also acts as aphrodisiac.
3. Practicing Yoga and Meditation to overcome mental exertion and to cope up with stress.
4. Sleep at least for 8 hours a day.
5. Avoiding the consumption of alcohol, tobacco, heroin etc.
6. Exercise regularly.
7. Avoid hot, spicy and bitter foods.
8. Favor sweets, milk products, nuts and urad dal.
9. Add little ghee in your diet.
10. Give a gap of four days between two consecutive intercourses
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40, "a little overweight", 2.5 kids, job from hell, ex-smoker and tonight’s the night. The wife is in the mood. The kids are asleep, the neighborhood is quiet for a change and it's a perfect night to make love. Familiar, but still nice after all these years you begin your love making ritual, your right as a man. She's not as small as she used to be, that aching feeling like a splinter in your mind that started after your first child. "Does she still feel me inside?"
I've been there, I've thought it too. Even more so after the second child. Here's a survey fact gathered from my web site www.Herbal-SexAphrodisiac-Libidus.com/ . Guys with their penis's ranging from 4" to 9", 98 percent surveyed thought the same thing! A 9" guy worried about pleasing his woman? Hard to believe? A woman’s vagina will return to almost her original size within a year after her first child. So what has changed in him?
Emotional content? Time and age? Penis size? The answer is all three. So let us as men, look directly into the gaping maw of the lion’s truth.
It would take a much, much longer article than this to help everyone who is reading this with their individual, emotional content. But, the mind follows the body and the body follows the mind. So let's analyze "Time and Age" and "Penis Size". In a positive direction, that, becoming harder and longer in your shorts, will do wonders for your emotional content.
Myth #1: Your penis cannot be made larger without surgery or a miracle.
Fact: I have gone from 7.5", semi thin penis, to a 9", thicker member in under 3 months.
Myth #2: Penis pumps make you larger and thicker.
Fact: Pumps swell you for about 1-5 minutes and have no long term benefits’. You can also burst capillaries and cause permanent damage. Keeping the penis swollen for long periods of time can increase your girth slightly over a few months, but it will not increase the hardness of your erection. Over time it will do the opposite.
Myth #3: Just taking a pill will give me more length.
Fact: Most of you have already learned by experience that this is false. The "Magic Pill" doesn't exist, but, it can be our best friend in making the powerful gains we really, really want, if you combine it with "Jelqing".
Ask any porn star...and I have...what is the best part of having sex on a constant basis. "The growth that comes from holding an erection for an hour or more, four to six days a week." Over time, this gives you permanent, increased, length and girth. Why? Did your brain already come up with the answer? Your penis is a muscle. It's time to start your own penis work out, starting today. It's time to go to the Jelqing gym!
Use these techniques at your own risk!
Never Jelq or exercise to the point of pain or excessive discomfort.
The little man. This is how we will think of our member from now on as we work out a fitness routine to start you on the road to more gain to the number one muscle. The penis is made of soft tissues much like the rest of the muscles in your body. To gain muscle you perform sets, from light to heavy, from minimum reps to increased reps. The penis can do curls and it can flex. Which sounds more like fun? Driving to the gym for an hour of sweating or a half an hour in the bathroom Jelqing?
The penis is composed of tissues. To lengthen it, you must massage it to make the tissue grow. If tissue growth can be achieved merely by swallowing pills, bodybuilders would not need to workout! Jelqing isn't complicated, but like any workout to get maximum gains, you want to focus on technique. You can have your new penis in 30 days or 3 months depending how closely you adhere to these techniques. Your doubts are understandable; this is virgin territory for most people. I have 1.5" more than I had when I started and you can too. If you only use these techniques for a week, you will feel better blood flow and stronger erections.
Preparation is a key component. The penis tissue must be made warm before exercises begin for maximum gain in a short time. An extra warm wash towel, wrapped around the shaft, for at least a minute is the best start. After being in a hot shower for 10 minutes also works well. Heat the tissue, start the blood flow, begin the stretch, then the Jelqing.
After the warming period is initiated, we will stretch the penis by placing your finger and thumb in an "OK" sign, behind the head of the penis. Use the head to stretch, were not trying to grow more skin, we are trying to lengthen the shaft. Basically we will point towards 12, 3, 6, and back to twelve on the clock. Hold each clock position to your own level of comfort for at least 15 seconds. Also include pointing the stretch straight out in front of you. So it is up, down, left, right and out. Ok, that's the warm up, pretty simple but very important.
The Jelq:
Done right, you can see gains very quickly. Your penis will have a different feel for most men the first time you perform the Jelqing technique. One of the best gains is the control over premature ejaculation.
Supplies: Wash towel, Soap or hand cream (I recommend the penis oil I sell at my site. "Of course you do" you’re thinking. The Penis Oil we make drives blood into the penis in seconds, clears unseen blood clots and increases erection strength even after ejaculation. Our penis oil is made for Jelqing and increasing gains in a short time. It is all I will use.)
Step One: After the warm up, with one hand, keep a circle with your first finger and thumb of your left hand around the base of the penis. Keeping the blood in the shaft while you are Jelqing. Squeeze just enough to keep a semi-erect penis.
Step two: Making the circle around the shaft starting at the base, with your thumb and first finger on the right hand, is how we drive the blood from the base of the penis to the head. This is not a race, develop a count and keep a rhythm. From the base to the head, count 1-2-3 for each Jelq. Keep the other hand, holding the base, in the same spot for every Jelq. Try to do at least 50-100 jelqs per session. We are not trying to cut off the blood flow into the penis. Every 25 "Jelqs" I switch hands and let blood flow normally back into the shaft.
Step Three: Vitamin intake. When a weightlifter goes to the gym, he keeps his muscles growing by helping them heal faster and get stronger with nutrient intake. New muscles need to eat, feed them right. I use a combination of herbs, and buy a one month supply which I take over a six week time period. The herbal combination stays in the blood stream for up to four days. I take two caplets one half hour before my exercise begins.
I don't stop there. I also use a high quality stretching device, which combined with the Jelqing, herbs and vitamins has given me gains at 40 yrs old, I only dreamed of at 25. See the rest of this article on our home page, click on the "Jelqing" button.
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Anyone can become enraged once in a while. But if you feel rage boiling within almost constantly, or rage erupts from you frequently, you may have an organic illness.
On the other hand, you might have suffered some terrible injustice as a child.
One major, but largely ignored, category of such abuse is that of boys emotionally, physically, or sexually damaged by women.
This abuse is not only widespread but may be at the root of much subsequent abuse of women by men.
A little boy abused by a woman suffers in similar ways to a little girl abused by a man.
In recent times it has become acceptable for women to speak out about the abuse they suffered as children; most men feel no such permission is given to them about the abuse they suffered as little boys at the hands of women. These men are ashamed, and enraged.
They are enraged because society accepts that men can be angry but there is less acceptance for the male victims' feelings of hurt, fear, inadequacy, guilt, embarrassment, and especially weakness and vulnerability.
A male victim smothers these emotions with anger. In this way, he preserves his masculine image. But the cost is enormous.
A man unaware of the deep sources of his anger will, at the least, have troubled relationships with women; at the worst, he may rape and mutilate.
A male victim of childhood sexual abuse by women displays the following behavior as an adult:
>> Distrust of women.
>> Fear of intimacy.
>> No separate identity.
>> Readily feels guilt.
>> Hard time to accept compliments.
>> Holds back emotions.
>> Protects abuser(s).
>> Sexual difficulties.
>> Seeks abuser's approval.
>> Constantly apologises.
>> Fearful.
>> Eager to care for others.
>> Joyless. (Adapted from Blanchard, 1987*)
The lousy feelings often erupt as rage. Ronald sought professional help to change his vicious behavior toward his wife, Helen.
Ronald would arrive home disgruntled after a disappointing day (every day was disappointing) in the architectural office where he worked, and an hour's drive to the suburb.
Before long, he would be kicking Helen. There was always some pretext for the kicks. (Helen did not have supper ready, or she was on the phone, or she wore a dress he hated...). Ronald never used his fists. Always his legs. He despaired of his uncontrollable rage because he believed that “Helen was the best thing that had ever happened to me.”
As Ronald talked more about his life, his hostility to almost everyone became evident. He was jealous of his brothers, sneered at their choices of wives, hated his job where he felt put upon, especially by female colleagues.
When Ronald spoke about his mother, he whined. Long stories of how she favored one or other of his brothers, how he cringed in her presence, how he avoided visits to her house yet was jealous of her contacts with his siblings. Ronald was convinced his mother preferred one of his nephews, adding bitterly, “Though my son was the first grandchild.”
Hypnotherapy Heals the Hurt and the Rage
Within the comfort of hypnosis Ronald was able to connect his present-day woes with unpleasant incidents in his childhood.
This was accomplished with what hypnotherapists call an “affect link.” You allow yourself to feel a particular emotion, such as grief. As you continue to experience the feeling, the hypnotherapist asks you to recall an earlier time when you felt the same way. Ronald's confused mix of bitterness, rage and sense of abandonment, swiftly drew up a memory of his mother:
“I'm six years old. Mummy keeps telling me I'm her favorite. She tells me to come into her bed. It's warm there. I fall asleep, snuggled beside her. I wake up. She's moving my leg up and down over this hairy place between her legs. She's breathing funny. I'm scared. [Sobs]. She opens her eyes a little and tells me it's okay. My knee is wet. I try to pull away but she holds onto me, tells me to be a good boy, do this for Mummy. She seems out of breath. I'm scared. Then she shakes and cries out. I'm even more scared and I feel bad, like something's really wrong. I ask Mummy if she's all right. She turns to me with a big smile, hugs me and says I'm her little man and everything is fine. [More sobs, reddening of face].
“But everything is not fine. I don't understand. Mummy tells me this will be our special secret. She seems happy. And she likes me best. So I keep quiet. And whenever she asks me I let her use my leg to rub her where she wants. [Later Ronald described other sexual activity his mother initiated]. I begin to like it, too. When I get old enough to have an erection, Mummy plays with my penis. I really like that. But at the same time it feels kind of weird. This stuff went on till I was eleven. I found out at school what sex was supposed to be, and how bad it was what Mummy and me had been doing. I felt sick.”
With psychotherapy while he relaxed in hypnosis, Ronald made some progress toward a healthier life, and control of his rage.
Unfortunately, his wife sabotaged the treatment. Ronald, like many sexually abused victims, had (unconsciously) sought out a woman who would continue the abuse he had suffered as a child.
Helen had made no secret of her broad sexual experience prior to meeting Ronald; indeed, she was proud of it. But her knowledge of the carnal world and his relative innocence (sex with only one woman: his mother) repeated the power pattern Ronald had suffered as a boy.
When Helen saw that Ronald was learning to control his rage, to lessen his hostile attitude and to relax, she counterattacked. Helen had married Ronald because (unconsciously) she wanted a man she could dominate and despise. His therapy threatened to upset the delicate dance of danger they had created.
Ronald was swiftly reduced to a sniveling, angry puppet when Helen sneered at his progress and repeatedly reminded him of what a Mummy's boy he had been.
A final blow bounced Ronald out of therapy: Helen telephoned the therapist, discussed Ronald's history, and insisted the therapist not mention her call to Ronald. The following week Helen casually mentioned to Ronald something the therapist had said to her. Ronald felt betrayed [he was] and never returned to therapy.
You may be doing very well with hypnotherapy when a friend or relative sabotages your progress. This is not usually as dramatic or underhanded as Helen's behavior. The disruption comes in the form of doubt. Your friend may question the effectiveness of hypnosis, and cite the many hypnosis myths that still pollute our minds.
Once doubt is planted, hypnosis ends. Doubt and fear keep us from relaxation. And relaxation is the route into hypnotherapy.
Dennis, like Ronald, suffered fits of rage. Unlike Ronald, Dennis took these fits out on himself. He would tremble, and shake, and sweat and fear he was about to pass out. Dennis knew his ambition to become a police officer would never be realized unless he got over these fits. Like Ronald, he had troubled relationships with women.
Unlike Ronald, Dennis had slept with dozens of women. All his longer-term relationships collapsed over an aspect of jealousy, his or hers. Didn't matter. Dennis could not trust a woman.
Dennis deliberately sought out a male psychotherapist who sometimes used hypnosis. But so scared was Dennis of going into hypnosis, that he spent several sessions in traditional psychotherapy before he had plucked up enough courage to try hypnosis.
Mothers Are Not The Only Women Who Abuse Little Boys
As far as Dennis knew, he had not been molested by his mother. Actually, he was not even sure who his biological mother was. He had been born into a large, extended criminal family. He had lived in seven different homes by the time he was five. All but one were homes of his aunts, cousins or siblings. He got used to calling each aunt in turn “mother.” The woman listed on his birth certificate showed no more, and no less, maternal interest in Dennis than did any of her sisters who raised him.
From as far back as he could remember, Dennis had been abused: abandoned, ignored, ill-fed, beaten, locked in a closet.
The therapist helped Dennis sort out the multitude of feelings that swirled within him.
Finally, Dennis said he was ready to try hypnosis. He was still frightened, despite the therapist's explanations about the safety of the process. But it was not hypnosis itself that Dennis feared; it was what might be uncovered.
In one way, he was right to be wary. But what was uncovered, awful as it was, freed Dennis from the last symbolic chains that linked him to his abusive family and their criminal ways.
In hypnosis, Dennis traced his attacks of trembling to some disgusting sexual behavior of one of his aunts when he was about four. What she had done to him and with him amounted to torture. It had been so horrible he had repressed the details for years, though “I knew something had happened; I just didn't know what.”
Now that he knew what lay at the root of his rage and his attacks, Dennis was able to let go of them. He felt forgiveness for his aunt because he knew of her own dreadful background. It was as if to know what she had done liberated Dennis from any lingering loyalty to his criminal relatives (all of whom were involved in drug deals, prostitution, extortion, etc.).
Now Dennis felt fully comfortable with his decision to apply to the local police training college.
*Blanchard, Geral. (1987). Male Victims of Child Sexual Abuse: A Portent of Things to Come, Journal of Independent Social Work, 1-1, 19-27.
